How do you handle change?
Or, put another way, what do you do when everything is changing in your life?
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about change. Seems like every week over the past couple of months, I’ve encountered a patient or family who are suddenly faced with a life-threatening illness or situation, and BOOM!, their whole world is different.
Sudden, major changes in life can be seriously difficult to manage. And sometimes they can wreck our faith. This post will help you learn to process change and keep your faith intact.
When you’re sad, it can seem impossible to believe it will ever get better. This article will give you some tools to see the hope that’s always there.
The past is seductive, my friend.
Regardless of whether our past is full of victories or stocked with defeat, our inclination is to look back on it. To be defined by it, believe its stories about our future. But if you want to win tomorrow, you have to stop retreating to the past.
If you want a happy future, you have to learn to pick better memories.
In recent weeks I heard different people I care about say all of the following things:
“Why does everything always have to be so hard?”
“I remember that trip. We fought all the way.”
“She feels like her life will never be good again.”
It’s tough out there, in life. We’re all in it together, but sometimes it seems like we’re being singled out to go through some particularly hard things, or a sequential string of very difficult days (or months, or years).
Eventually, after having experienced enough of these difficult events, we can resign ourselves to that being how it “always” is, or “always” will be.
That’s when we bring out the “never” or “can’t” or “always” labels and start sticking them all over our lives, our capabilities, our relationships, our health, or our happiness. I’m personally guilty of this at times, so I’m not singling you out, but I have to tell you that this behavior is very damaging to your neurochemistry, your psyche, and your future happiness.
What you allow yourself to think about is directly tied to how you feel. It’s not the other way around, although you can let it feel that way.
If You Had a Rough Year,
You might be asking yourself some big questions.
If you had a rough, painful year, you might even be asking God those questions, or wondering if He’s really there.
Trust me, I understand.
If you’re tired of being stuck in the same old year over and over, this post will help you get ready to make 2017 your best year ever. If you really want a great new year, keep reading.
My youngest daughter Kalyn loves quality time. It’s her love language.
Kalyn and I have a tradition of going to breakfast together. Over the years, those breakfasts have been some of our most special moments.
This was the bookend to the breakfast we had six months ago, the day before she left for Australia and Nepal for her Youth With a Mission training program. It was amazing to see how much she’s learned and grown in such a short time. Her love for the Lord and her heart for people are so powerful.
I hope you have opportunity to make some special moments like that happen with those you love.
One of the things we talked about was how important it is to be purposeful in making plans for next year.
If you don’t approach the new year with purpose, it’s very unlikely that anything will change for the better.
Where to Find the Answers People search their whole lives, looking for the answers. Trying to find meaning and purpose and clarity as to why they’re here, what’s their purpose, what they’re supposed to do. I spend my days walking around hospitals, meeting broken people whose decisions to drink and drive or seek a thrill […]
What Happens When You Promise God “Anything” Another year, another birthday. 47 of them so far. But this year is pretty different. A new state. A new job. An apartment instead of a house, for the first time since college. A new office, not run by my wife Lisa, who’s been working at my side […]
It’s Memorial Day in the United States, the day set aside to remember the sacrifice of those who have died while serving in our country’s military.
Farewell to Gordon Livingston, an amazing man who taught me (and all of his readers) so much about life, love, grief, and mental wellness. Gordon passed away in March from heart failure. His heart carried so much love and so much pain, having lost two of his sons in a thirteen-month period.