If you want a happy future, you have to learn to pick better memories.
In recent weeks I heard different people I care about say all of the following things:
“Why does everything always have to be so hard?”
“I remember that trip. We fought all the way.”
“She feels like her life will never be good again.”
It’s tough out there, in life. We’re all in it together, but sometimes it seems like we’re being singled out to go through some particularly hard things, or a sequential string of very difficult days (or months, or years).
Eventually, after having experienced enough of these difficult events, we can resign ourselves to that being how it “always” is, or “always” will be.
That’s when we bring out the “never” or “can’t” or “always” labels and start sticking them all over our lives, our capabilities, our relationships, our health, or our happiness. I’m personally guilty of this at times, so I’m not singling you out, but I have to tell you that this behavior is very damaging to your neurochemistry, your psyche, and your future happiness.
What you allow yourself to think about is directly tied to how you feel. It’s not the other way around, although you can let it feel that way.
If You Had a Rough Year,
You might be asking yourself some big questions.
If you had a rough, painful year, you might even be asking God those questions, or wondering if He’s really there.
Trust me, I understand.
If you’re tired of being stuck in the same old year over and over, this post will help you get ready to make 2017 your best year ever. If you really want a great new year, keep reading.
My youngest daughter Kalyn loves quality time. It’s her love language.
Kalyn and I have a tradition of going to breakfast together. Over the years, those breakfasts have been some of our most special moments.
This was the bookend to the breakfast we had six months ago, the day before she left for Australia and Nepal for her Youth With a Mission training program. It was amazing to see how much she’s learned and grown in such a short time. Her love for the Lord and her heart for people are so powerful.
I hope you have opportunity to make some special moments like that happen with those you love.
One of the things we talked about was how important it is to be purposeful in making plans for next year.
If you don’t approach the new year with purpose, it’s very unlikely that anything will change for the better.
Next-Level Thinking is the Most Important Secret to Success
It separates ‘good’ from ‘great,’ and it can really transform your life if you’re trying to reach new milestones in any area.
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His own journey through life led him to discover the principles of a truly rich life, and he shares those RICH Principles in his new book, Redefine Rich.
Matt helps people discover true richness, joy and contentment in their lives. Matt and his wife, Liz live in Wilmington, North Carolina and have three sons.
You’ll be blessed and inspired by getting to know Matt Ham.
Have You Had Your YST Moment Yet?
In everyone’s life, there comes a time when you know you’re supposed to do something.
It’s your moment, the time when your heart tells you it’s time to act, to step out in faith, to take the plunge, to change. Whatever it is, there’s a moment when you know.
I believe that this is God telling us what He wants. My Buddhist friend (who’s not really Buddhist, but he likes to talk about meditation and inner peace and reaching Nirvana) calls it The Universe. You might call it your mind or your inner voice or your conscience. I think it’s God.
But whatever you believe about this, you know I’m right: there are times in your life when your heart tells you something, and if you don’t do it, you know you’ve missed out, messed up, or melted down.
This is what I call your You Start Today moment.
If you go back and listen to the other interviews I’ve done on the YST Podcast, you’ll hear a common theme: every one of them, from Dr. Joe Maroon to Commander Mark Divine to Drs. Guy Winch, Terry Simpson and Jade Teta to Dr. Daniel Amen have had their moment, the time when their hearts told them that something had to change, that it was time to take action.
You can hear it in Fitarella’s story, and in Chris Brogan’s and even in Lisa’s and mine.
I promise, you’ll have yours. The good news is, most of us have a lot of them in life, and God has a way of bringing them back around when we miss them the first (or second or fifth) time.
Today, I’m going to help you prepare for your YST moment.